All the affection and attention you soaked up at first become a little much. Let her know that you love the cute texts but can't respond during certain hours because of work or parenting or some other responsibilities. Does she dismiss all of them and demand you respond constantly ALL DAY LONG? He calls you clingy so you distance yourself from. It might seem like she doesn't really have her own interests outside of being a girlfriend. You might notice that your friends start joking that you're whipped and can't go anywhere without her, but you get the sinking feeling that it's not really a joke. She just expects every outing to become a couples' outing.
It's not just the verbal affirmations either. Set Expectations with Clear Communication. Start exploring your own interests.
If you're open about how you feel and when you can communicate, she's not going to assume you've had a change of heart just because you stopped responding during your two-hour work meeting with your boss. He calls you clingy so you distance yourself around. Set some expectations. Are you supposed to pretend like you never liked anyone until you met her? Another pretty good sign that she's a clinger is when she doesn't give you any personal space. You really, really like this person, right?
She Gives Up Her Individual Identity for a Coupled One. No boundaries can indicate codependence. The problem becomes even more apparent when you fail to answer one of these constant messages either in the time they expected or with the "correct" amount of enthusiasm. No one will ever love you enough to make these problems go away. Her need to be better than all of them is huge. Plan lunch dates with friends. You asked, and he cringed at the hesitancy you held in your voice, something told him he'd done this. She Texts You All Day Long. She wouldn't dare make a plan that didn't involve you as her plus-one. If she doesn't get what she wants, she's likely to kick up a fuss about it. You were being a "better" girlfriend and completely hurting yourself in the process, crying yourself to sleep at night because you wanted him you put his feelings before your own. When he calls you darling. Is she constantly trying to test your loyalty and devotion no matter what you say or do?
Does your relationship have together time and time alone? Let her know when attention becomes overwhelming. Are most of her posts about you and your relationship with her? He was so sure that his need for attention was more important than my need to finish my work and pay the bills.
Start training for a marathon or begin learning a new language. All you two loved up for the world to see. This is cute for about thirty seconds in the relationship. ☽❦ ❦ ʀᴀᴘʟɪɴᴇ- -ᴍɪɴ ʏᴏᴏɴɢɪ ᴀᴋᴀ (ᵃᵍᵘˢᵗ ᵈ/ᵐᵉᵒʷ ᵐᵉᵒʷ) ❦. But sometimes, once that first chemical rush is over, you just might find yourself with a barnacle of a human being clinging to you at every moment of every day. "I'm sorry,,, I never meant anything I said, I-I was stressed and I wrongfully took it out on you" he said, taken aback when a tear slipped from your eye. Talk to her about it. If she's not allowing you any time or space without a full-scale drama happening, it might be time to end the relationship and move on. She's constantly calling, messaging, or just showing up.
Anyone can engage in these behaviors. God forbid you ever bring up a past relationship! You'll either figure out a new way to navigate the relationship, or you'll figure out you're just not compatible in the first place. Don't let it get bad before you speak up. Okay — maybe that's extreme, but you start to feel like that's the only time you get alone. Figure out your own love language and ask your partner about theirs. This wasn't an isolated incident.
The problem comes when the messages are constant.