The wife protested the name but the husband got mad that she hated his grandpa, which was not the case at all. This family was planning on doing just that as the husband really loved his grandfather and unfortunately, he passed away a week before the OP wrote this story. He doesn't see anything wrong because that was how he was raised, " u/McflyThrowaway01 said. He said I was being ridiculous and that I shouldn't expect his mom to be excluded from her granddaughter's life like that. Aita for telling my husband i never wanted our daughter to have. "Your husband needs to knock off the "jokes" and grow up. Not saying he shouldn't, BUT, many times she'd put my daughter down and point out where she 'messed up' and what she needed to work on.
Picking a name for your child is hard because because of all the connotations it can have, like reminding people of a serial killer. "If he was healthy minded, he would see the effects that his mother's comments have on his daughter's feelings and — since he has empathy and cares — would put his daughter first. Being pregnant is not a field trip, but there are more relaxing activities like dreaming about what the baby will be like, what kind of person they will grow up into or what their interests will be. Let us know the thoughts you had while reading the comments! More than 2, 200 users commented on the post, with many criticizing the man for his "bullying" and "abusive" behavior. Aita for telling my husband i never wanted our daughter to love. Image credits: Fort George G. Meade Public Affairs Office. "But the thing is ever since I got pregnant he kept hinting he doesn't want our daughter to look like me. "Everyone at the table laughed.
That is why the OP thinks that she might have been the jerk in the situation. We would like to know if you would have agreed to name your child Teddy Bounde or you would feel too uncomfortable about the similarity to the serial killer's name? At least that's how many he confessed to, but police suspect that the number might be higher. "Next time you and your husband are intimate, roll over afterwards and say, 'Let me just say that tonight's performance was disappointing' and see how he likes that 'constructive criticism. Ted Bundy is a pretty-well known name, but if you're confused why it is not great for a kid to have a name resembling this particular one, then you should know that that man kidnapped, assaulted and murdered about 30 women. We had a big argument and now my daughter isn't even interested in playing anymore, my husband said I was way out of line and shouldn't use our daughter in my fight with his mom. He operated in seven states in the US between 1974 and 1978 and he actually had a pleasant face and was considered charismatic, so he had no trouble luring in his victims. Aita for telling my husband i never wanted our daughter to stop. Animals and Pets Anime Art Cars and Motor Vehicles Crafts and DIY Culture, Race, and Ethnicity Ethics and Philosophy Fashion Food and Drink History Hobbies Law Learning and Education Military Movies Music Place Podcasts and Streamers Politics Programming Reading, Writing, and Literature Religion and Spirituality Science Tabletop Games Technology Travel. "Now here's the thing, my husband invites his mom to every performance our daughter has.
She finally got pregnant with her 37-year-old husband after trying for a decade while trying to combat infertility and experiencing miscarriages, so the couple is very excited. Some examples include making patronizing comments, telling them to "take a joke" and embarrassing them in public. He has shown you exactly who he is and what he really thinks of you. Another user who goes by u/i_am_soooo_screwed also pointed out how harmful the husband's actions were. He also told her that walking out of the dinner was disrespectful to his relatives who came to celebrate. Another man was slammed by users on Reddit after he told his wife to "hurry up" while she was cooking Thanksgiving dinner for the family. AITA For Telling My Husband His Name Suggestion For Our Unborn Baby Is Idiotic At Best. "The fruit fell directly under the tree and never moved. He also called me controlling and vicious. "He urged me to get therapy and stop acting so dramatically like how I did in front of his family.
I don't know about you, but I am speechless after reading that. We went home and I lost it on my husband telling him his mom just keeps putting our daughter down and it's not right! "This really does sound abusive. Redditors didn't think that and very well understood that it would be wrong to make it seem that a child was named after a serial killer, even if that was not the case, because nobody would care about the true origin of it. Here you can post your thoughts on the stories shared on the pod, share your ideas for future episodes, etc. Giving your baby a name is a hard decision that will have life-long consequences, so you have to consider all the connotations the name has, how it can be shortened, what nicknames it has, what other people have that name, and so on. She said the comments hurt since she is already dealing with anxiety and low self-esteem, but when she told her husband she wanted to go home, he said she was "being a baby" and needed to learn to "take a joke. This happens every time! What is more, the husband's family was on his side and wanted the child to have the beloved grandpa's name. But sometimes parents love a name so much, they don't even realize how many problems it could bring to their child.
The OP guesses that her husband just needed to hear that from someone who loved his grandpa as much as he did and who was grieving as painfully. Luckily, at least the OP's parents are on her side and understand the consequences that such a name could have on this baby because who will stop and think of any other reason parents would give their child a name that sounds just like the infamous killer's? And not just the dinner. Just like the infamous and feared serial killer Ted Bundy. "He said this was a 'joke toast' and that my reaction was over the top, " the post read. The couple found out the baby will be a boy, so they decided to still honor the husband's grandpa but give their son his middle name, Silas. You don't deserve it, and neither will your daughter.
Another man was roasted online after he replied to his wife's text about being pregnant with a "K. ". The woman, 25, said she is pregnant with her and her husband's, 31, first baby. The problem was that the grandpa's name was Theodore and the child's last name would be Bounde, which is pronounced the same way as Bundy, the serial killer. "His mom arrived like 20 minutes later, sat next to him, and kept pulling him close while whispering in his ear. That made the husband think they should honor him by giving the grandpa's name to their baby. It's low self esteem created by a thousand cuts. Or was she too soft in her tone? When they got the news that it's a boy, the parents both agreed that they would still honor the grandpa by giving their child his middle name, which was Silas. I'm so sorry to say it sounds like you married a narcissist, raised by a narcissist, " u/SamW20910 said.
Image credits: Bruna Rabello (not the actual photo). "But he doesn't give enough of a shit for your feelings or his daughter's, hence the not listening, not caring, and perpetuating the verbal abuse of his daughter. The wife's resistance only showed the husband that she hates his grandpa, even though she just wanted people to not associate her child with a really cruel criminal. Feeling rage and anxiety, the woman said she grabbed her belongings and left, with her mother-in-law following behind. The wife kind of lost her patience and told her husband that his suggestion is "idiotic at best, sociopathic at worst" which didn't help him see her point and made him think that his wife hated the person who he adored so much. "I went home and he called many times telling me to get my 'insecurities' in check before I pass them on to our daughter, " the post read. Do you think the mom was being too dramatic and inconsiderate? Most agreed that the wife was not the asshole and that the husband was to blame in this instance, including a user who goes by u/wendypeffercornisa10. This future mom was talking about names with her husband and unfortunately, his beloved grandpa died recently. The woman said she wanted to go home, but when her husband walked through the door they began arguing.